You have to have guts to hope. You have to be willing to take chances, to define what it is that drives you, to stake a claim, and know that you will get your butt kicked more often than you care to. But knowing that helps you know also, that a butt-kickin’ isn’t the end of you. It’s just a lesson. Sometimes, you can get a butt kickin’ in as well.
The path to forgiveness is a hard one. It is not so much about the other, but about the extent that the other still haunts us. When we are finally exhausted from carrying the sins the other has visited upon us, we are then ready to engage in the impossible path of forgiveness that eventually leads to a discovery: we are more alike than different.